Petty Tyrants

[laughingRain]

RANTUS, The Petty Tyrant
In the book Toltek Dreaming by Ken Eagle Feather, I find I have to concentrate very hard, as he teaches me new ways to look at things.
Ken has now introduced the concept to me of a pattern of human being he calls the Petty Tyrant.

I seem to have an attention span of 30 seconds when learning new ways of looking at things. Each new word I learn, in addition, a whole row of thoughts seem attached to that word and spring into my consciousness.
In order to continue reading, I must brush aside the stuff which is coming up, but gently, if I would find his wisdom, what he is sharing.

In regards to the petty tyrant personality, I do believe all of us can relate to knowing at least one such person, whether in the office environment, or our family, or somewhere in our history, they become easy to spot.
I have been thinking about this for weeks it seems without really knowing where I shall go with it.

Perhaps I can engender some comments from the public at large, and my friends here to disclose to me a relationship they have, or did have, with a petty tyrant.
In that case, we can discuss how we graduated from such an uncomfortable closeness to such an entity?

Ken explains, that person is in your life for the opportunity of challenging our own selves, to get beyond our need to react to such an individual from a habitual standpoint. We either react by remaining silent when affronted by this one, or we may resist their inferences to our inferior grasp of the situation by blasting them with some of their own wind; which of course, neither course of interaction yields up the harmony we may be desiring. Ken says we need a “new cohesion.”

There is another new thought I must consider and reflect on, what exactly a new cohesion is.
If I have it correct, a new cohesion building, is similar to a thought ball that gathers momentum within linear time. It would be like taking something old, and making it into something new.

My not quite final thought on the petty tyrant issue, is to reflect on the bully type. In every school yard, you will see this type, who seem to flare up at the least bit of provocation, taking the weaker children’s lunch money and generally starting fights. These bully types then are the petty tyrants of society.
They may or may not turn into criminals. For sure, these did not receive any parenting to speak of, and may have had abuse inflicted upon them in their childhood which has made them what they are now.
We are not concerned so much with how they got the way they are, as we would be considering how to disengage the negative influence they have upon our own energy fields. The best we can do when we find a petty tyrant in proximity to our space, is to count to 10 before reacting, and realize promptly as possible, they are projecting their own image unto you. For it is true, the petty tyrant sees himself or herself as life acting upon them, rather than they themselves being creating of their own thoughts and emotions, therefore, the personal reality they are experiencing.
In this case, they do not recognize they own themselves, or could own their own selves, by taking sole responsibility for their personal reality, to say, to consider they are not always right, and that others may indeed be correct and right, to want to retain their lunch money, and yet not be willing to recieve a bloody nose simply to retain a few coins.
By and by, one bully will come to face to face with a bigger bully whom does not relinguish the lunch money and to whom the bloody nose is a small inconvenience to endure.
However, for most of us, we need to learn how to deal with the petty tyrant, if not in school, we will need to know later on in adulthood.
I’ve outlined a few rules which may be helpful, to some of us, but not all of us.

1) Realize whatever a person says about you, is a statement about their own beliefs, about their own self and that their opinion of you is none of your business.

2) Speak in as calmly a tone of voice as you can, and it may be that spirit wishes you to be silent at the moment. It is not a sign of weakness to go into the silence; yet if the petty tyrant proclaims you are weak, remember the first rule, their opinion of you is none of your business.

3)If the problem is ongoing, such as a marriage, or a job situation, consider that this may be Spirit’s answer, that it is time to find more congenial company, or a different career or job circumstance. It’s ok to walk away if you feel drained continually by the petty tyrant. Realize, when you are drained emotionally, the tyrant feeds off your energy.

4) Consider, if moving on is seeming impossible, that there are many fine counselors out there to help you break the pattern of the behavior, which puts you into the petty tyrant’s pathway. If you change your behavior, this acts to help the petty tyrant to consider, whatever energy, payback they were getting from your side, is no longer working. They may even change for the better; however, it’s yourself you change, as your priority, not them, and you must release expectation totally upon them to do the changing. It’s about you, just as it is about them, in the petty tyrants outlook.

5) Never fall for the “if you loved me, you would...”
This is manipulation, and we do this when we’re young, but as we get older, we should mature, to realize, true friendship and true love, asks nothing of the other, except understanding, honesty and allowance of each one’s differences.

The problem would remain, in attracting to yourself the influence of the petty tyrant, whereby he/she exits your life, another like pattern human being shows up. The same reason that the petty tyrant was there in the first place, is still there to deal with, in that case. You must figure out how YOU created them in your life, rather than how to get them out of your life.
Exceptions to every rule exist however, and I am referring to those of us who play victim throughout life.
Playing victim will cause an entire lifetime of problems to solve. Taking responsibility for your personal reality changes everything, and every phase of your life, for the better. Whereas the person who controls their temper controls their destiny towards peaceful outcomes, the petty tyrant will only change if it’s thier own idea, attained by observing enough people who are in control of their tempers, and do create their own personal, peaceful reality. Peace, love, and blessing to you all. My unseen friends. Laughing Rain